Experience taught best.

You cannot see your past in somebody else's life. Though you feel connected and share certain similarities, but to see you in somebody else's life is not fair. You did some mistakes and you thought he/she will make the same mistakes but they don't. And even though they did, they wouldn't reacted the same way as you did.

Its like medical drug that you took once in a while, the effects are differ to you and your friends. The perfume that you wear, emit different odor on different skin or body. Everyone have a unique reaction towards everything though they did share certain similarities.

Maybe, you need to get a bit loose sometimes. You guided them, gave out advices and looked out for them but let them decide. Let they learned through experiences. We fell to the ground, bleed our knees, cried our heart out and then we learned the lesson in a hard way. Maybe that is how it supposed to be; experiences are the best teacher in life.

So, what if they had the same ending as you did? Let them be. Let them learned.